Here’s a partial list of behavior problems that are possibly related to trauma:

Anxiety

Depression

Low frustration tolerance, short fuse/temper, or may cry easily

Loss of interest in goals, “don’t care”

Hard time focusing or concentrating

Relationship issues

Frequent Fights/aggression

Missing/skipping school or work

Substance use/abuse

Criminal behaviors

Trauma is not the only reason a student may have these problems, however, it can be helpful to explore whether trauma has played a part in shaping some of these behaviors. 

To be clear, not every problem behavior is a sign of past trauma. However, it is possible these behaviors might represent ineffective coping strategies a student has learned in order to deal with earlier trauma.

Also, notice that many of these behaviors are often attributed to “poor parenting.” While that may be true in some instances, often these problems persist despite “good enough” parenting. When that’s the case, it can be helpful to explore trauma as a possible source.

When a child, teen, or young adult in your care displays problem behaviors, it’s helpful to explore where it comes from. As a parent, youth worker, teacher, or coach, get into the habit of asking yourself: 

“What happened in this student’s childhood that opened the door for this behavior?”

If you suspect that your child or teen’s behaviors could be related to previous trauma, give me a call, and let’s see if counseling might be a good fit.