“I know God is good… so why am I still so anxious all the time?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. I hear it in counseling sessions all the time—and I’ve often asked it myself.
Many Christian women silently wrestle with chronic anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and inner chaos—all while loving God, showing up at church, and doing their best to “trust Him.” You may look calm on the outside, but inside you’re constantly bracing for the next letdown, failure, or crisis.
If that’s you, I want to gently say: 👉 You’re not weak. You’re not crazy. And God isn’t disappointed in you. But you may be listening to some powerful lies—ones that anxiety loves to whisper in the background of your life.
Let’s talk about it.
The Root of Anxiety: What’s Really Going On?
In his book Running Scared: Fear, Worry, and the God of Rest, Christian psychologist, Dr. Ed Welch explains that most anxiety is rooted in one of three core fears:
1. Fear of Death (or Harm)
Fear that something terrible is about to happen. Fear for your safety or the safety of people you love.
2. Fear of Judgment (or Rejection)
Fear of what others think of you, of being exposed, embarrassed, or not good enough.
3. Fear of the Future (or Loss of Control)
Fear that things won’t work out, that you won’t be okay, and that no one—including God—will show up for you when it counts.
All your anxious thoughts—no matter how different they seem on the surface—can usually be traced back to one of these three root fears.
But even deeper than that… are the lies those fears are built on.
The 3 Lies Anxiety Tells You
Anxiety doesn’t just make you feel afraid. It feeds on false beliefs—subtle, unspoken lies that shape how you think, feel, and live. Let’s name them:
Lie #1: “I’m not safe. Something bad is going to happen.”
This belief usually stems from trauma or pain in our past and is the lie beneath the constant sense that tragedy is just around the corner. It’s rooted in the fear of harm, and it might sound like:
- “I can’t let my guard down.”
- “If I’m not prepared for the worst, I’ll fall apart.”
- “My body, my relationships, my life—it could all fall apart at any moment.”
🔑 God’s Truth: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me.” – Psalm 23:4 God’s presence offers real security—even in the valley.
Lie #2: “I’m not enough. I have to prove my worth.”
This lie hides under people-pleasing, perfectionism, hustle, and shame. It’s the belief that you’ll only be loved if you perform well enough or hide your flaws.
- “I can’t mess up.”
- “I have to keep it all together.”
- “If people really knew me, they’d walk away.”
🔑 Jesus says His grace is sufficient for us, His power is made perfect in our weakness, in fact, Paul said he would most gladly boast all the more about his weaknesses to that Christ’s power would be demonstrated through him (2 Corinthians 12:9)
Lie #3: “I’m alone. I have to control everything.”
This lie fuels anxiety about the future and leads to burnout. It often stems from past wounds where trust was broken—or you felt abandoned in moments of pain.
- “No one’s coming to help me.”
- “If I don’t make it happen, it won’t happen.”
- “Even God feels distant.”
🔑 God’s Truth: “Your Heavenly Father knows what you need.” – Matthew 6:31–34 You’re not alone, and it’s not all on your shoulders.
Why These Lies Feel So Real
These lies often come from real pain. Trauma, church hurt, abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment can shape what we believe about ourselves, God, and the world.
In other words: your anxiety makes sense. It’s not random. It’s not weakness. It’s a signal that something inside needs healing.
But healing comes when we stop agreeing with the lies and start replacing them with truth.
A Biblical + Practical Path Forward
One framework that’s helped many of my clients (and me) is a form of Christian Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). It’s a simple but powerful way to stop the spiral and renew your mind:
🔁 The 4-Step "Replace the Lie" Practice:
- Identify the lie you’ve been believing
- Name the truth from God’s Word
- Renounce the lie out loud (yes, out loud!)
- Replace it with truth daily (get your “reps” in)
It’s a workout for your mind—and it works.
Know God by Name
One of the most powerful ways to replace anxiety’s lies is to get to know God more personally—by His names. Each of His names speaks to a different fear:
- Jehovah Shammah – The God who is there (You’re not alone)
- El Roi – The God who sees (You’re not invisible)
- Jehovah Jireh – The God who provides (Your needs will be met)
- Jehovah Nissi – The Lord is your banner, your victory (You’re not fighting alone)
- Abba Father – Your safe and loving parent (You are secure and accepted)
When we shift our focus from what we fear to who God is, everything changes.
Final Word: You’re Not Stuck Forever
Friend, if anxiety feels like your constant companion, please hear this:
God is not mad at you for being anxious. He wants to meet you in it—not shame you for it.
There is hope. There is healing. There’s a way to move forward—and it starts with uncovering the lies and replacing them with truth.
If you’d like help walking through that process, I’d love to support you—whether through counseling, resources, or ongoing podcast conversations. You don’t have to carry this alone.
Need Support?
If this blog resonated with you and you’re ready to start healing, consider reaching out for counseling or subscribing to the Becoming Unhindered Podcast. Let’s journey toward freedom—together.
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